Love life?

I've been a mommy for over a year now, and I've just started to experience a small desire to be in a couple, to have a significant other.  I have absolutely no regrets over my choice to have my son, he's my world and being a mom is the best thing ever.  But I kind of wonder about how I handled things when I was first pregnant.  I was just starting to date a really nice guy when I found out I was pregnant, that my trying had worked.  I never really figured out a way to tell him, to see if it might have worked any way.  And then I had my son and he was my focus for a year.  Now I'm seeing this guy again, at work, for coffee, and wondering how to handle it.  I might like to see if things could go on, if we could manage to make something work.  But how to do that?  I have a son!  I don't have a babysitter! 

I think part of my problem is that I know I want to have more kids, yes kids plural lol.  But I know that on my own, having one more is the most I could handle, and that would be difficult.  If I find a man, fall in love, get married, maybe there's time for another.  But the finding, falling in love stuff could take more time than I have. 

Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't change my life right now, and most of the time I'm perfectly happy being alone and doing this by myself.  I don't really even get lonely per se.  But there are moments when it's all a bit much, like I need a break, some kind of help, something.  Even having another adult here to talk to would be nice somedays.  It's funny too, if I hadn't gone back to work I'd be perfectly happy with my son and I, but now that I'm exposed to adults and conversations, and this one guy, it's changed. 

The dilemma I have now is whether to explain things to him, to see if I should, or even could, pursue a relationship with him.  Way back two years ago we went out on two dates, and it was nice, I could have liked to go out on more.  We had coffee, an occasional lunch, we chatted in emails.  It was nice.  But I was pregnant.  I didn't know at the time of our first date, I was only a few weeks long, and didn't test until after that date.  By the second one I was 6 weeks along and knew, but wasn't telling anyone.  How do you tell a guy you've gone out with a few times "hey I'm pregnant with my ex's child, he's not involved and I'm doing this on my own, and I'd like to keep dating you, no strings or anything!"

I don't even know who to talk to about this, who to ask for advice.  And I'm the type of person who won't really do anything about it any way.  I'm rather passive about relationships, I simply wait and see, and then nothing happens really.  I know this but can't seem to do anything about it!  I could talk to a friend at work but her husband is this guys best friend, so he'd hear about it I'm sure.  He's not even my "type"!  He's not tall, he's not rough and gruff, he's smart, he's sensible and reliable.  He's French, not that that's bad, just not something I thought I'd like.  He's also quite proper and responsible, and traditional.  I mean the type of guy who is probably waiting until he gets married to "do it".  And here I am, single mom, and I do enjoy sex.  We're not the same type of people.  But I'd really like to see where it goes.

So what to do, I should talk to him.  I should step up and tell him, see where it leads.  At least figure out if there's anything there to pursue so I can stop stressing over it all if there's not.  And if there is something to pursue, then I can figure out how to do that with a baby at home that I don't want to leave.  I know there are a lot of single mom's out there who date, it's possible to do.  Just probably not with such a young kid at home.